Parents need to parent – not be friends to their children.
If you don’t want your kid to be a narcissist, get tougher now | New York Post. It isn’t quite as simple as this columnist makes it out to be, but the gist is right: parents are making it about themselves while pretending it’s about helping their kids. Shaun Kieran Hello@ShaunKieran.com (207) 767-3864
Helping Families Cope with Mental Illness
I still recall the feelings as my colleague sadly shook her head while describing how her family had reacted to her brother starting to “decompensate into his schizophrenia” beginning in his late teens – early 20’s. “My Mom became frantic. She started hugging him and smiling at him all the time – as if she could […]
A Surprise Blow at Her Workplace
This wasn’t Manhattan or LA, so referring to Maryellen as a rising star is only meant to convey that her youthful energy as a nurse at a well-respected assisted-living facility caught notice and was appreciated by residents and staff. She combined natural warmth and exuberance with nursing gravitas. She knew her stuff. She’d started as a […]
The Courage to Supervise
“Courage” may seem a bit over-the-top, but what actually goes on at work – all the drama – shouldn’t be minimized or taken for granted. Supervisors do more than manage workflow or pass on orders from the higher-ups. For many employees, their direct supervisors are the human face of the organization – like it or […]
Divorce Wisdom – Take the High Road (Even Though It’s Hard)
“Take the high road.” That gets said a lot, and of course it’s good advice for all of us, but it’s truly the best way to operate for someone going through a divorce – especially because, too often, that’s not a person’s first instinct. It’s not about turning into a saint, but it is about really understanding the need […]
Managing and Having a Life
One of the many ways the world is different now is the perception that truly successful people must be consumed by their work – to the point that 55 hours a week is virtually the minimum – and we’ve all been exposed to the idea that it’s admirable for someone to spend as much as […]
The avoid avoiding coach
All kinds of people occasionally choose to avoid thinking about something that has no immediate answer, but would cause stress if they simply let it take over their mind: “I’m just not going to worry about that until I have to.” Happens all the time. And lots of times it’s the smart thing to do […]
A Cure for Hyper-Parenting – NYTimes.com
I really liked the gist of this article, especially the point that “the problem with hyper-parenting isn’t that it’s bad for children; it’s that it’s bad for parents.” And that’s the part that’s bad for the children. Kids shouldn’t be able to actually succeed at turning their parents inside out. Read it here: A Cure […]
We don’t really get too far out of our comfort zones, even with important things like parenting, unless we’re aware of our “Latitudes of Acceptance.”
Latitudes of Acceptance | Edge.org. It’s probably not a surprise when I say I can usually tell fairly quickly whether my work with a client will bear fruit or not. Certainly a lot of it is intuition from all the years doing this work, not firm, empirical data – plus I’m always careful to be […]
The Perils of Attachment Parenting – The Atlantic
The Perils of Attachment Parenting – The Atlantic. I’m amazed at what’s happening. Basic common sense has left the building! The author doesn’t go nearly far enough conveying her skepticism. Attachment problems that truly affect children are inherently severe: mental illness and addiction resulting in severe negligence, abuse, or abandonment. The idea that you’re helping […]
