Some situations have become difficult problems because the doing, and some of the habits of mind connected to that doing, aren’t working anymore and are also connected to ways of seeing reality that people can be fiercely, unreasonably loyal to - despite clear as day evidence to the contrary.

It’s precisely the folks who’ve been aware for awhile of a growing problem, have a sense of when it started, what its possible sources might be, what's happened since then, and really want to understand their own part in the process - those are the people who use consultation well.

Taking the high road communicates that you at least take your own life seriously, and that - down the road - you don't want to look back at this major life crisis, and cringe at how you managed yourself.